My son struggles to sit still. He always has. I remember at the age of 2, we were at church and the kids were doing some sort of performance (I don’t remember what, exactly.) He didn’t stand still. Always moving. A friend’s mom was there who worked in education. After the performance we joked about his restlessness— and then the friend said something like “Yeah, my mom pointed to him and said he definitely has ADD/ADHD.” I didn’t think anything of it at the time but looking back, this probably wasn’t the wisest thing to be said about a toddler.
He’s 9 now. Last year, in third grade his (amazing) teacher did things in the classroom to promote his ability to learn. She let him stand at his desk to work and would usually sit him in the back so that he didn’t block the view of his classmates. She already knew about essential oils and would encourage him to use them when he needed. He isn’t a naughty kid— but the classroom struggle is real!
I am not here to say things like ‘kids shouldn’t sit for so long in the classroom these days.’ Or ‘the education system is all backwards when it comes to learning and movement.’ These things might be true, however it isn’t the reality I live in. Maybe in 5 to 10 years things will change. But right now is when my child is struggling. Right now I have to act to make a change. Today. Not in 5 to 10 years. Which is why I am not going to touch on what’s wrong with our education system. Not yet, at least.
A few weeks ago my son’s fourth grade teacher approached me. She mentioned his inability to focus in class. *UGH* It frustrates my son that he can’t sit still as well. And fourth grade is hard. I think it’s one of the harder transitions in elementary school. These kids are now expected to be a lot more responsible and my kid— well… he’d lose his left arm if it wasn’t attached.
My son got in the car, I turned around and said to him: “You’ll be joining me in the 21 Day Sugar Detox, ok?” And to my surprise (and utter shock) he said: “Ok, mom.” In a tone that said to me ‘yeah, I want to fix this, too.’
The detox was a week and a half away and I knew I had to support him now. This is where essential oils comes into play. This is what I do as an alternative to medicine. I will not medicate my son. I will not go get him diagnosed. I could. And I have a pediatrician who would medicate in a heartbeat. She’s a good doctor, except she prescribes for everything. And that’s not my cup of tea. I hate the idea of putting a band-aid over a ‘problem’ instead of fixing or supporting the root issue. Now my son has 2 roller balls of oils with him to help him calm down and focus. One he keeps in his desk at all times and the other one (the big gun one) is in his backpack. He measures success in focusing by how many times he has to use the roller ball. That first week, he would roll both roller balls on the bottom of his feet before school and on the back of his neck. I like sending him to school with these tools because it empowers him to use them when needed.
Then the 21 Day Sugar Detox started. There is a “yes” list of food and a “no” list. It’s modified for kiddos a bit, in that we don’t eliminate all the starchy carbohydrates and seasonal fruit. For adults, it’s a bit more strict. We eliminated bread (not that we eat much of it), sugar (in all processed forms as well as maple syrup), and dairy. My son isn’t a huge fan of dairy, so this isn’t hard. My daughter loves cheese— and I didn’t eliminate it for her.
Breakfast and lunch were the hardest for them. They went from eating GF toast with butter and cinnamon and coconut sugar, to eating bacon, sausage, eggs, and sometime pumpkin pancakes (unsweetened, of course.) What this means is that I have to cook them breakfast. Every morning. But I do love it. It takes work. It takes a supportive husband (who even left out sausage and bacon to defrost, so I could cook something this week.) But it’s doable. Lunch has consisted of salami, apple, grapes, nuts of some sort, and pork rinds (Epic is my fav brand and my kids LOVE them).
After the first two days of the sugar detox my husband noticed our son’s ability to focus on his homework. TWO DAYS! There is something to be said for eliminating processed sugars in our children’s diet. I haven’t heard from his teacher since then. However, parent teacher conferences are coming up— I might have to do a ‘Part 2’ of this series. *insert the big eyed/shocked emoji here*
I also have to brag a little bit here. Often times, when he doesn’t finish his classwork, he will be sent to a classroom during lunch recess to finish it. Once he finished he was to remain in this classroom until lunch recess was over and at that time he was to go back to class. He found it unfair to not be let out once he finished. He mentioned to me that it would be nice if he could get his wiggles out when he completed whatever assignment he was sent in for. I agreed. Then I asked him what he wanted to do about it. Know what he said? He would go talk to his principal about it. And he did! I’m not sure if anything will change but she rewarded him for coming to her. I was incredibly proud of him for taking the initiative. There’s a lot to be said for empowering your children to fight their own battles sometimes.
Does your child struggle with sitting still? ADD/ADHD? It’s overwhelming at times, I can attest to that. But it doesn’t have to be. Simply eliminating gluten, dairy, processed sugar and food dyes can get your child started in the right direction. Essential Oils are an amazing support, too. You don’t have to navigate this road alone. If you (and your child) are ready to take that life changing step- I am here to help! Contact me and I will help you figure out a game plan that suites your particular child/family needs. I know how hard raising healthy children can be and I am passionate about helping everyone. Drastic change can be overwhelming. I can help with a few simple steps to get you going in the right direction. I want to help you find balance in this crazy thing we call life!